Private Facebook Groups can be the most fun places to exist online, but they can also be a little dangerous.
THE “Are we with the same guy?” Facebook group is a page designed for women who date men to get references on their male partners, warn other women of “red flags” and see if they are dating the same man. But this page is a lot less fun if you’re one of the guys. So much less fun than one of the guys mentioned above suing.
Nikko D’Ambrosio, a Chicago man, is suing 27 women, one man and multiple social media platforms, including Meta for “false and defamatory statements”. While the Facebook group describes itself as a “red flag awareness group across the country where women can empower each other and protect each other from toxic men,” the Facebook group complaint filed last week in U.S. District Court for the Northern District of Illinois alleges that it maintains “a platform for women to anonymize, defame and attack the moral character of men they have met online.”
D’Ambrosio went on a few dates and had consensual sex with one defendant — a relationship the complaint describes as “trivial.” She posted it in the group to ask other women for information. In response, some women called him “very clingy” and a “psychopath.” One woman said they dated but he ghosted her after they slept together. He and his lawyers asked the defendant to delete the post, which she did. But, according to the complaint, she reposted it under an anonymous handle.
He’s seeking $75,000 and also wants to stop the defendants from continuing to publish “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” in the newspaper. The Facebook page, Business Insider reported.
No one outside the group is ever supposed to know about what’s going on inside the group – but, since this is the Internet, that didn’t stop them. Nothing said in these messages is verifiable, and as we know, the messages themselves can have an effect on a person’s reputation, which, as Mashable previously reported, “seems be the problem, for better or worse.
It’s unclear exactly how this lawsuit will play out, but it will be interesting to see who will be held accountable for what is said in private online groups – and what kind of effect it will have on public speech and security on the social networks.